I’ve been dumped!

Aug 26, 2020

My girlfriend recently dumped me and I don’t really know how to handle it. What should I do?

Breakups in relationships are never easy and it’s worse when you are the one who gets dumped. Here are a few tips to get back on your feet before you reenter the dating game:

Eve says:

Burn some calories! Keeping physically active will also divert your attention from your latest love pains and actually make your mind/body/soul feel better. You can join a health club, go skiing, go to the lake, go to the park, take dance lessons, take up martial arts, join a local softball team, join a bowling league, take tennis lessons, take up jogging, etc.

Take a dating break. Stay away from romance and the dating scene for awhile. This will give you time to heal your wounds and find yourself again. You should keep busy with activities that made you happy before you found this latest love. Whatever you do, DO NOT feel sorry for yourself for an extended period. You will just become depressed and then no one will want to be around you.

Basically, you shouldn’t jump right back into the dating game without having had some healing time first. Only start dating again when you are 100% sure that you are over the one you split up with, and are ready to try someone new.

Adam says:

A great thing to divert your attention to after a lost love is your career. Becoming a temporary workaholic will give you something to concentrate on and feel proud about.

Search through your apartment or house and remove anything that reminds you of your lost love. Throw them away, put them in storage, hide them in the attic, do whatever you want with them, just get them out of sight. This is a good way to bury the past and get on with your life.

Spend more time with your buddies and renew old friendships. During this transition time from being a couple to being single and free again is a good time to bond with friends to take your mind off of your old lover.

Whatever you do, DO NOT THINK ABOUT HER!!